Updated: Feb 16
It's almost a full year since we locked down due to Covid. Who would have thought that a year later we would still be talking about it and waiting for life to return to some kind of normal? Yet, here we are. How are you dealing with the disruption and the changes that edged into your life?
Developing your coaching skills and figuring out how to grow your business is not easy in the best of times, let alone during a pandemic. You may have struggled through some illness yourself or in caring for a family member. The struggle is real and that makes resilience a necessary skill for all of us.
Resilience is that ability to bounce back when adversities and challenges of life have knocked us off our feet. It's a hot topic right now in our cultural lexicon, but it has always been an important skill for us as humans. As important as it is however, you can't really know how resilient you are until after the fact. You can only practice skills that support resilience and prepare you for times like these.
You may be someone who comes by it naturally which means you may be more genetically predisposed to resilience than others. Some of us are. That doesn't, though, mean that the rest of us are out of luck. In fact, most of what determines resilience can be taught and chosen no matter how we are wired. This is important because resilience is predictive of success. A quote that caught my attention earlier this year still captivates me.
More than education, more than experience, more than training, a person's level of resilience will determine who succeeds and who fails. That's true in the cancer ward, it's true in the Olympics, and it's true in the boardroom. - HBR, May 2020 issue
So what does it take to develop it? Here are some thoughts. These practices will equip you to develop resilience and hopefully support you as a coach. 1. Be Clear About Reality People tend to think that someone is resilient because they have an optimistic outlook. Optimism is certainly a valuable asset, but true resilience comes from seeing reality and facing it head on. When you acknowledge the truth about your situation, you can do something about it. So, a powerful question to ask is, "What's true?" or "What is my reality?" 2. Take Care of Yourself Our practice of good self-care is important whether we are in a crisis or not. It's part of good stewardship of our body, mind and soul, and will help us access the resources we need when we are challenged. Getting enough sleep, eating well, and regular exercise are essential for us to live well. "Where do you need to adjust to care for yourself more effectively?" 3. Find Meaning in Community Faith in God and reaching out to our close community is part of taking care of ourselves, but worth mentioning as a distinct practice. There are times and circumstances where we have no words to explain our pain and can feel particularly alone. Loneliness in that sense debilitates us and our ability to be resilient. "Who can I lean on?" "What do I need?" With clear eyes on what's truly happening, good self-care, and strong faith and community we can be more resilient. We need this and so do our clients.